Majestic man staring into the distance in Lisbon

Hey!
I’m Kincaid.

I’m looking for a woman in NYC.

Let’s grab a drink, build a pillow fort, and plot our political power couple ascension.

26
5’ 8.75”
Brooklyn, NY
Minneapolis, MN
In 5+ years
Liberal
Northeastern University
Founder at Gathers
Kincaid in motion
Man (shredded), running in the night (run club in Boston)

Things I value

Motion

I love to run, practice yoga, and lift things.

I love the solitude of running at night*, and feeling in the zone vibing to EDM.

(*Recognizing, I’m grateful I can feel safe.)

Running with other people is great, too, for different reasons. The shared energy of running like pack animals and briefly swarming some poor pedestrians is also (regrettably) intoxicating.

I’ve also tried my hand at salsa and bachata, though that comes less naturally to me and was more motivated as a “let’s do something really uncomfortable that seems cool!” thing. (Any recs for studios in NYC?)

From the running playlist

Craft

I love the satisfaction from concocting an elegant solution to a complex problem.

Sketching airport terminal blueprints in 4th grade, designing and building the user experience of Gathers, writing some prose on a “date me” site… I live for it all.

Relationships

Kincaid smiling with his sister and dad
The fam 🙂
Kincaid supporting a friend
Kincaid raising a melon

What I’m looking for

I’m most interested in a serious relationship with an awesome human.

I’m open to casual; there’s a lot I’m still working on, and growth can come out of that, too. However, I’m not interested in a situationship. (Let’s politely part ways if our intentions and investment get misaligned.)

I value these qualities most in a partner:

  • You’re honest
  • You’re kind
  • You reflect on and intelligently communicate your emotions
  • You’re open-minded and enjoy intellectual conversation
  • You’re mature, yet can still unlock your inner child
  • You value fitness and invest in your health
  • You have great style or aesthetic taste
Kincaid in the wild

Now, you must choose.

Addendum:
why create this?

I’ve become interested in the problem space of interpersonal compatibility. (So much so, I’m kinda working on it professionally?!)

But, the data says we ourselves, other humans, and algorithms are all pretty terrible at predicting it.

So, here’s the truth: very little of what I write here should inspire confidence we’ll have chemistry. It probably says something about the way I think, but probably not much about how I interact face-to-face, or about how we, uniquely, might interact. It doesn’t do justice to the intensity of my eye contact. Though, in reading this, you may discern we likely aren’t compatible, which saves us time.

The implication? If I seem like a reasonable human, and you think I’m hot, and I think you’re hot, and our age and location and relationship preferences et cetera et cetera align, and it’s really only possible to find out if we vibe in person, let’s…just meet.

And that’s the point of this. It’s not really enabling you/I to filter in a meaningfully more granular way compared to the apps. It’s about distribution and your eyeball(s) seeing this, and really, filtering for intent to actually meet IRL.

And I suppose there’s a novelty to it, right?